Soulmates is a term that is easily been overused and not always clearly understood.
    Some believe...  there is only one soulmate, who we must search for our whole lives.
Some believe... that it is a connection from a past life that the two share and have come again this life to help eachother to further grow.

Each person must decide these things for themselves...
     It has been my experience that we may meet many soulmates in our lifetime.
This doesn't mean we are lovers with each one, that is a personal choice. The meeting may be destined yet we still have freewill as to how we re-act to it.
The meeting and continued relationship for soulmates is all about growth and there will be many synchronicities that will enable that re-connection - that's how you will know that it's a soulmate relationship.

However, remember that there are twinflame relationships as well as soulmates ones.
Both are meaningful relationships and teach us to grow, yet in different ways. Soulmates compliment us, they are in many ways our opposites. That's why soulmates can become easily codependent with each other - one is better at the things it is hard for the other to do and visa versa. So it is important that teach the other one do what is hard for them rather on relying on the other one. The lesson of soulmates is to both become whole people through a respectful love, plenty of understanding and an honest focus on growth. Then, we can be involved in an everexpanding interdependent relationship of soulmates. 

Remember all releationships are made of the space in between two and must be protected by both of the people involved.  Nurture it, and if someone hurts their lover, it's best to also appologize to the relationship as well as the person who got hurt. (Children are the physical form of this space between.)

Twinflames are just like us in so many ways, we think, and act so similarly and the rhythym of our lives, no matter how different the specifics are, is still very much going in the same patterns of lessons. Twinflames come into our lives to show us who we are by mirroring us, there may be some competition between the two, which may even serve the growth of both... until it doesn't.   
(This is probalby more common is extra marital affairs when the person has lost who they are in the relationship, and a twin flame comes along to remind them who they are again.)
Have no judgment of who we draw into our lives... offer kindness, recieve the blessings of our growth from facing our deepest part of ourselves through another and offer honesty with kindness.

If we really grow, the upgrade person (either the same person who has upgraded through growth or someone new who matches better to who you are now) will be drawn to you if you keep focusing on growth and what's best for all concerned and handle each situation with kindness and love. Let love help us to find our way through... letting us see who we are by who we draw in (friends as well) and that we may all be made better becauseof having shared love, for that is surely why we are
here.
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